Often heard during parent to child interaction” Why can you not be responsible?” The singular question looms large What is responsibility? How do you weave this into the moral fiber of your offspring?
Responsibility is an attitude as well as a state of mind. It is inherent and can be imbibed as well-Being responsible for yourself as well as others is an admirable quality. Children must be taught to be responsible at an early age as they are the citizens of tomorrow. Steps must be taken today to make them responsible members of society.
Children primarily learn by seeing how others react to situations. Adult interaction with the child is of utmost importance and is the cornerstone for good learning. Parents, caregivers are the child’s first role models. They look towards them as their focal point and use them as a sounding board for their observations. Teaching is the linchpin in the whole parent-child interaction
To make the child self reliant and responsible, analysis is first needed to assess whether the caregiver is responsible in the true sense of the word. Analysis will lead to true discovery of self. If we as adults pass the buck, what message as we passing on to our progeny?
Positive changes in the adult’s behavior will be passed on to the child, so turn the mirror on yourself and be your harshest critic. Children can be made familiar to the fact that actions have reactions and effects. Making them aware of these effects is the primary responsibility of the caregiver.
Being observant is essential for the parents. They need to keep an eye out for observing any unacceptable action in the child’s behaviour. Correction should be provided when he slips up.
Consistency is the key. When a routine is established make sure the routine is followed, without interruptions. Complacency should not set in. The moment the vigilance slacks, the child may anticipate it is okay to let go. Wrong messages once sent out will disintegrate the whole effort and bring it to naught. Be polite in reminding the child, but at the same time keeping a self awareness of the thin line between reminding and nagging.
Similar situation questions are a great way of involving the child and making him feel responsible. The caregiver should be patient with the child even if the answers range from the absurd to the vague. Ask them to explain their rationale behind their choices. Do not at any point berate the child as it hurts his self esteem.
Bedtime stories are a good way to strengthen the bond between the caregiver and the child the good moral characteristics of the hero attract the child and they prove to be a learning platform for them. Children love repetition of these characteristics. Parents and caregivers can enhance thee function of story telling to a different level by focusing on the why and how of the hero’s actions. Analysis of the stories will help the child to absorb these values.
“Little drops of water,
Little grains of sand,
Make a mighty ocean,
And a pleasant land…”
Little steps that are taken for the betterment of the child will reap rewards in manifold.