There are millions of women all over the world who fall in love with men who are unavailable. We often wonder why we attract such men all the time. There are a number of reasons for this and when we find out what they are, it can get easier for us to change the way we choose our relationships.
Reasons You Attract Unavailable Men
Experts say that women look for a man who will remind them of their first love. Often this first love is their father. If a woman’s father was a busy man when she was a child and he didn’t dedicate much time on her, chances are that she’ll look for someone like that. It can be said that this is done out of habit.
It may bring a world of pain and hurt later on in the relationship but that will not stop her from seeing him or dating the same type of man in the future.Many women attract and choose unavailable men because they think they can have a do-over. This means that they try to fix what went wrong in a past relationship with the new one.
They try to have the happy ending that they didn’t get. They also try to get the love that they didn’t through their current partner and they keep repeating the same mistake over and over again. Again, this brings a lot of pain and hurt but somehow it never stops them.
There are a lot of women who can only fall in love with “the man of their dreams”, meaning that they only see the qualities they want to see in the man they’re dating. They project their fantasies onto someone and out of all the men that are around, unavailable men are the perfect targets for this kind of projection. The women never really get to know them because the qualities they possess are already there in their heads.
How To Stop Attracting Unavailable Men
Women who have low self-esteem are the ones who have the most tendencies to attract men who are emotionally unavailable. So to break the cycle, you need to focus on yourself instead of the men and realize how you contribute to all the hurt and unhappiness in your relationships.
Shifting the focus from trying to control who you’re attracted to and moving it to your growth and development is essential.The first thing you need to do is develop a strong relationship with yourself and learn to love yourself once again. Getting rid of your dependence on relationships with men is also important.
Take the time to get to know yourself and give yourself some time to be single and have a good time with friends and family. When you do this, you’ll find that your taste in men has evolved and this will serve you well in your future relationships.Know what you want in a relationship. Take your time in getting to know someone and see whether they’re really worth your time and effort.
You’ll also have to be brutally honest about what you want in a relationship. Remember the mistakes you’ve made with men in the past and use it to make better choices.Lastly, remember that if you want to be treated with respect, you need to treat yourself with dignity and respect first. That way, the man you’re with will know that you’re definitely worth his time and affection.
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