How to Deal with Abusive Relationships

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Relationships are a bond of trust, faith and love. Abuse of any kind, be it physical, verbal, emotional or psychological, is a great stigma to any relationship and one needs to carefully deal with it. No matter if you are a male or a female, abuse is something which is completely unacceptable in any relationship. Thus, if your relationship is not giving you happiness and is instead abusing you, you should read below to find out how you can deal with it.

Many people think that abuse only implies physical or sexual abuse. However, that’s not the case. If you are constantly verbally abused by your partner, you are a sufferer. After all, it eventually leads to unfriendly living conditions, low self esteem, hampering of confidence and eventual mental torture. Abuse of any kind needs to be carefully and practically dealt with. First of all, discuss openly with your partner that this kind of behavior is certainly not acceptable. Tell your family members and friends about it. You should not be a silent sufferer. After all, abusive relationships can completely hamper the emotional and psychological self of a person, eventually leading to depression. If you are unable to prevent abuse in relationship despite certain efforts, then you need to get out of that relationship. Do not compromise your self respect and happiness to keep an abusive relationship alive. If you are physically abused, you need to lodge a formal complaint in police, even if it is against the person you love. Also, move to a safer place, to your friend’s or relative’s place. Many people who are emotionally and mentally abused lose their balance and get into depression. Discuss your problems and seek professional advise if need arises. Whatever be the case, first try to prevent abuse in relationship and if still you are becoming a victim of abuse, then do not shy away from moving out of such relationships. After all, as an individual, you have all the right to live your life in a safe, healthy and respectful way.

  • MONICE

    ME AND MY FIANCE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS HAVE HAD 2 SONS ONES 1 1/2 AND THE YOUNGER ONE IS 7 MONTHS OLD. I AM ALSO 2 MONTHS PREGNANT RIGHT NOW WITH HIS 3 BABY. (I HAVE A DAUGHTER THAT IS ALMOST 3). BUT ABOUT 3 MONTHS AGO HE STARTED HITTING ME AND I ALMOST LOST THIS BABY A WEEK AGO……BUT THERES ALWAYS VERBAL MENTAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE. BUT I LOVE HIM SO MUCH BUT IT HURTS MY HEART AND HE ALWAYS SAYS HE’S SORRY BUT HE KEEPS DOING IT……I WANT TO LEAVE BUT IM SCARED…AND I DONT WANT TO BE ALONE BUT I WANT TO DO IT FOR MY KIDS.

  • Michelle DeLarwelle

    Monice, I can COMPLETELY relate to your experience. I am in the process of ending my relationship. I finally reached my breaking point after 10 years. My boyfriend is trying to make me feel guilty for ending the relationship saying I am taking everything away from him. I responded by telling him that I am not TAKING anything from him but that he THREW it away. Dont let your fiance guilt you into feeling like it is your fault because it isnt. He made this choice and I can tell you, no matter how many times he says sorry it will NEVER get better it will only get worse. Be strong, reach out & hold tight to GOD and keep your friends close. Dont let him control how you handle this situation & most important, YES do this for the kids & in the long run, it will help you more then you will ever know. We are all afraid of being alone. But we dont have to be. We have family, friends, church & other women who have been through it. You will NEVER truely be alone. The Devil just wants you to think you are.

    Keep your head up & keep it clear. You will do what you need to. Most importantly, be safe.

    God Bless

  • Pooja

    Hi,

    My husband considers himself a victim and thinks the world is against him. Unfortunately I played the role of mother and kept the marriage going for 15 years. As I hit 40, I realize I do not have to put up with this nonsense and when I spoke up, he got verbally very abusive and also tried to be physically abusive by throwing a plate with food aimed at me and by punchign holes in walls. I have a 13 year old son who is growing up watching this and the reason I am not leaving is b’coz he threatens to take away my son from me and also because I do not have any support from my family as they are under the belief that I should put up with the situation. My sister believes that I am responsible for his abusing me and she leaves messages stating how she stand by him as he is family and it wil only be over her dead body that this marraige can break. I feel lost and would want nothing more than to walk away with my child, but I fear the fact that between his family and mine they would take my kid away from me. What do I do…how to I find the courage to take the first step?

  • to hurt

    i don’t know how to get out of the abusive relationship that i am in..she hits me when she just can’t deal with her anger..on a daily bases she says things that hurt me emotionally and mentally..i’m not allowed to have friends or do anything that i love..she made me drop out of school and she tears me down…i don’t know how to get out cause everytime that i try she does things to make me come back to her..its always a double stantard..she has to read all my text and emails..she wants to know what i’m don’t at all times, and who i’m with…how do i get out of this..

  • Linda

    Hi I am fifteen years old an I have a boyfriend of eight months. Her so Mgad except when we fightt if is verbally abusive and physically abusive he gets mad over tin
    x things and it gets really bad and he is so controlling I have no one to talk to and I don’t know what to do I don’t have the balls to break up with him

  • Cassidy

    I’m 18 years old and am in an abusive relationship. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I plan on marrying him. I know the right thing to do is to leave him, but no matter how much harm he does, he always apologizes.. but now the depression is starting. I’m afraid of being alone. I need help.

  • Rachel

    Hi, I and my boyfriend have been carrying a relationship of 4 years. Until these last 2 months, he was suffering through hell because he had completed his education and yet was without a job. I supported and stood by him through every thick and thin. Never demanded anything from him. I still don’t after he started earning. But in all these 4 years with him….I have had all the experiences of abuses and being slapped continuously once. He has called me all the possible bad words and later on he explained that he is very possessive and he missed me a lot and that whenever i m with my friends, he wants me to spend time with him. He dislikes my friends. ///////////////i dont want anyone to think bad abt him bcoz he is the person with whom i have planned my future already. But i dont want my future to go bad. This has affected my studies badly and i can’t put myself into what i do. I just keep crying coz he doesnt listen to me when i want to talk to him about this. He blames me for all the fights. I feel totally lost…i really don’t know how should i face myself now coz i have lost much much more than just my happiness.