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The ritual of tilak is solemnized at groom’s place. Called as Teep in Bengali and as Pottu in Tamil and Malayalam this ceremony has the groom as the central attraction. Basically, tilak is a ritual included in Indian Hindu marriages. This is how it’s done.

Though the ceremony is shorter in duration than other major pre-wedding function but the significance of tilak is much more than a formality .Therefore there are special decorations for this ceremony.

Traditionally, tilak ceremony is performed in day time. Many Hindu families believe in Muhurt, which is the auspicious time told by the priest to perform a wedding function. As the Muhurt for tilak approaches, the family of the groom waits for the father of the bride and other male members to come at their place.

As they arrive, both members of the family greet each other by Namaste and occasionally with hugs. The members from the bride’s side bring gifts for the groom and his family in the form of fruits, sweets and clothing. In return grooms family also gives them gifts.

The thaali for the tilak ceremony is prepared. It has special small bowl that contains a paste of sandalwood and saffron. A paste of kumkum and oil can also be prepared. The thali also has a Dia (oil lamp) of ghee.

Aarti of the groom is performed and he is asked to keep a piece of cloth on his head. Many grooms even wear a turban of a chunri. After the aarti the father of the bride puts tilak on the forehead of the groom. By this they give their affirmation that they have fixed the boy for their girl. The father of the bride may give him a gold coin or a gold Kara with some cash which is called Shagun.

The bride and her mother are forbidden to attend this function.