When someone says they have had a love marriage all we want to here about is stories of the courtship. The stories are especially fun if you are talking to your grand parents about their love marriage. But the perspective of general Indian society is the same ever since your grandparents. Ears stand up alert and eyes are raised when someone mentions the name of love marriages. Others like to talk it out in open.

To be precise, love marriages or “self-arranged marriages” are those marriages in which two people decide to tie a knot for life-time after realizing a mutual affection and attraction for each other. Both know each other well and only after much thinking this decision is made.

Love marriages are becoming more and more common day by day. Many families in India still oppose the idea of their children choosing their own mate. But the storm can be some come calmed if both the parties belong to same religion and are economically at par with each other.

The idea of inter-caste love marriages may not be affectionately acceptable. Some people opt to wait till parents show their acceptance to their marriage. In cases of elopement there have been seen some serious consequences.

Perplexity of love marriages

There are two major problems with love marriages. On being that there can be a lot of expectation from each other. This dependence develops because each may strongly believe that their spouse knows them well. Any type of unsatisfaction may lead to heated conversations. The other trouble is that once you decide to marry after dating for 5 or 6 years you may realize after marriage that there is nothing more to explore in your relationship.

Marriages are like bonsai plants. Both require good amount of love, patience and effort to grow properly. It is the couple who will need to understand that marriage is not a destination. It is a beautiful start for a new life. Live it on.