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“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”
by Germaine Nash
Something in our heart says that everyone should get married for at least once in their life-time. I am sure all will buy this statement.
But the burning question is what would be the better way of entering the institute of marriage? Both arrange and love marriages have their own share of frills and follies.
Love marriages
You meet someone and become extremely attracted to her/him. After dating for a few while and getting to know each other you both mutually decide to tie the wedding knot. Next step being breaking the news to parents. If you are fortunate they may welcome your decision. Else elope. Which I am not recommending.
Merits include that you know your partner well and so you know what to expect after marriage. Being a mutual decision there is an obvious strong desire to stay together.
Good to keep obstacles at bay.
The bitter truth about love marriages is that in case something goes wrong you are the only one to be blamed. No one else. Another fair thing to say here would be that you being in love might not be a good judge about your partner.
Arranged marriages
In today’s world of tight professional schedules one hardly gets time to pee let alone finding a life partner. Some panic at the idea of dating someone and taking time out and spend over them. Believe me such people do exist. For example myself. For people like us arrange marriages come to the rescue. Parents and matchmakers may arrange your marriage. Sounds easy? You just saw one face of the coin
The obvious merit is complete support of the family at all stages. It saves your time in looking for a partner which is nothing less than another job.
Initially it may be difficult to break the ice and get the communication started. In arranged marriages it is often seen that one doesn’t feel the freedom to explore much. There is always seen some form of hesitation and the decisions depend upon what the “family” may think.
Both arranged and love marriages thrive on mutual care and understanding. There are cases of love in arrange marriages and no-love in love marriages. Choice is yours.
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