Reserve psychology is a clever way of manipulating a person. Using reverse psychology in dating is similar to playing a tricky mind game with a person. In reverse psychology all you need to do is tell the person the exact opposite or reverse of what you want the person to do, think or believe.
Reverse psychology helps you to retain the control on a person while you make it appear to him or her as if the choice or decision is made by him/her. They believe that they have entire control on their own thoughts and decisions whereas it is you who are making them do things as per your will. But all this is not as simple as it may seem to be.
Reverse psychology needs to be used in exactly the right manner, at the right time and in the right amount. A small mistake may ruin the entire game. Therefore, it is important to be aware of how to use reverse psychology in dating. To help you with the matter, we bring you this article.
Limit Your Availability
So you thought that if you be available for the person all hours of the day or night then he or she would fall in true love with you or something? Well, in reality the exact opposite creates much more attraction for the person. We seem to value less which is easily or always available.
Whereas things and people seem more precious, valuable and special if they are less available. Therefore, make yourself important and special by making yourself less available to the person you desire to win over. Do not meet whenever he/she asks you to, do not receive calls always.
Keep the conversation or the call short (sometimes and not always) so that he/she gets the feeling that you are busy and are not available for him/her always. Do not entertain late night or wee hour calls.
Appear Disinterested To Some Extent
If you act disinterested in a person then that person becomes more attracted towards you. Disinterest to a moderate level can pull the other person towards you. He/she will feel challenged by your disinterest towards him or her and will try his/her best to get your attention.
It is a simple human psychology. People love to work hard to get something and value the thing much more than something which they get easily without much of an effort. For this you again need to follow the things mentioned in the previous point. Meet but not every time he/she wants to meet you. Receive calls, talk sweetly, flirt a little and end the conversation shortly after.
Hint About Someone Else In Your Life
If you have given him/her a certain level of importance or a position in your life then he/she will not like to lose it to someone else at any cost. No man or woman would be able to tolerate the fact that he/she is being replaced by another person or someone else is snatching away his/her place in your life.
Retaining the owned position becomes a challenge for the person and therefore he/she tries his best to maintain his/her importance and position in your life. So, if you want him/her to do something particular or go to a certain place with you and he/she is not much interested for the same, use this strategy to make the person do as you want him/her to do.
When you mention about your wish to go to a particular place and the person shows less interest in it or says that he/she would not want to go to that place, then simply tell him/her that he/she doesn’t have to bother about going there with you as you know someone who is much interested in giving you company for the particular venue.
If you manage to do this with a sweet smile and a relaxed voice and attitude, then you will find how soon the reason for not going to the particular place vanishes and he/she becomes willing to accompany you there.
Show Doubt Or Challenge Him/Her
If someone places a doubt on us or says that we can not do something particular then we become more eager to prove the person wrong and win over the challenge thrown to us. Apply this in your dating and see him/her do exactly what you want without you even having told the person to do it.
But this challenge should be thrown at the right place and regarding the appropriate thing. You need to be cautious about what, when and how you throw the challenge to him/her.
Keep The Control In Your Hands Without Him/Her Knowing It
If you want to control his/her actions and not make him/her feel that they are acting as per your wish then stop telling them what they should and need to do. Instead, support them in everything that they do, think or decide. But when you find that he/she should have done otherwise then just add a pinch to the seemingly supporting comments of yours.
Make it sound that you are with his/her decision or action but at the same time put the logic against the matter in his/her ears. This should be sufficient to control his/her thoughts and actions while he/she thinks that they made the choice themselves.
While you use reverse psychology in dating, you should make it a point to maintain certain things. If you do not maintain these things then you risk the chance of losing on the person and the relationship.
Point No. 1
Know the limit of using reverse psychology. Too much of anything becomes dangerous and harmful. Therefore, too much use of reverse psychology may give a completely different impression to the other person and thus cause damage to the relationship.
Point No. 2
While you use reverse psychology do not lose your originality and pretend to be someone else. You must maintain your true self so that he/she understands and respects what you are and not run after you only because you are using the strategies well.
Point No. 3
The main trick of attracting through reverse psychology is to play hard to get. But while you do so, get your message across to him/her in subtle ways that you are looking for or want some particular things which if he/she produces or provides then you will be all his or hers.
Point No. 4
Be very cautious of not giving him/her the feel that you can not live without them. Rather make them feel and realize that they can not live without you. If you by any chance appear too dependent or desperate for the person then that will ruin all your efforts.
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