Mentally Prepared For A New Relationship?
October 15, 2009
You commonly see people saying “I want a boy friend”, ” I am recently divorced” or “I am looking for someone special in life”. It is believed that entering a relationship is quite easy but it’s not as simple as it looks.
If you see the recent divorce chart of our country, you would be shocked to see that divorce rates have increased dramatically. This proves that maintaining a relationship is not as easy as it looks.
On an average, before getting into a relationship, people look for attraction, energy and productivity. They start dating and at a certain point in the relationship, they think about getting married and settle down in life.
Men go along with their partner’s decision as they see their personal interest in that and because they may want to make their family members happy. After the wedding it takes them only a short while to realize that there is much more to making a marriage successful than just living together.
Well, I am sorry to describe people in such a manner but nowadays this is the common thinking of the people who are starting a new relationship. In my career as a relationship coach, I came across many people who were in a bad state of mind after their breakup.
Some think about what went wrong and feel guilty that they could not save their relationship. Some were unemployed, wondering how to pay all the utility bills and rent.
Some of them were in trauma as they were heartbroken, had low self-esteem and seeking coaching for their relationship. After an analysis of all these different states of mind, I was wondering what should be the base line for readiness in forming a relationship and from where to make a fresh beginning?
Desire plays a very important role in making a new beginning. For a successful relationship, one needs to have long-term commitment, planning, dating, children, playing, working, sex and whatever else you could think of! Well, there are certain things that you might want to do before going into a serious relationship and after you are committed, you should plan in such a way that both of you are in a position to participate and enjoy your relationship.
For serious relationships, one should have the following qualities to make them successful.
• You should have inner desire to have a relationship
• You should be confident – know you are attractive and have something to offer to your partner.
• You should be financially stable in order to support your family with minimum credit card debt.
• You should share your emotions and feelings with your partner.
• You should have an abundance of love for yourself as well your partner.
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