Lately one of the most talked about topics has been verbal abuse at home. What can be done when the loving caring husband starts to use abusive language?
There are many wives who go through this traumatic situation. If you are going through something like this then you need to see when the whole thing started?
Did it start right after the marriage or years after? If this starts at the very beginning, then invariably the question comes is whether the woman should endure everything or leave the man and move on with her life? Even though it seems like an option, but then again one should take a chance before going for a divorce.
Well it is easy to say than to actually do it. Sometimes it does become unbearable. If the abuse started at the beginning of your marriage then it is better that, you give your spouse a second chance.
In this case, all you have to do is give your marriage some time. And now the big question is how much time you wish to give. In this case it can not be said that you have all the time in the world.
In this case once again the key is to communicate. You have to tell your spouse that he is being harsh and he can not use such words with you. You need to tell him how you feel.
In this case, there are two possibilities. He may realize what he has done and try to change his behavior. If he does that then give him some credits. Show him that his efforts mean a lot to you. This also means that there is light at the end of the tunnel and your marriage will work out fine.
But at the same time we can not ignore the other side of the coin as well. What if things don’t change? What happens then? Then it is entirely up to you whether you wish to put up with such a thing or not.
There are many cases where the wife can not leave the husband in spite of all the abuse because she is totally dependent on him. Ask yourself if that is the same case with you or not?
If you are dependant on your spouse and you wish to leave him, then you will have to take the initiative to make yourself independent economically. This might take some time.
This time will not just help you to get independent, but at the same time help you give your marriage some time. By the time you become independent, if things still do not change then you are free to walk out and start a new life.
Last but not the least you have to decide the limit. Sometimes the wife just ignores all the abuse or worse, she actually starts to believe what the husband said. But that is not true. It is up to you what path you will take. The choice is all yours.