Parenting is an extremely difficult to handle concept. It is just not having a kid, scolding and beating him or her up whenever things do not fall the way you want and putting the kid on keys to dance to your tunes and behave just the way you wants things to be.
Parenting is such a complex aspect of life that it is viewed as the foundation for the development of the future generation. If parenting is faulty, the generation that will follow will be weak and if it is right, we can boast of our future generation. You might think that how can your child and its behavior indicate towards the whole of a generation! Then an easy explanation to your query is that each child from each family will comprise of a whole generation. Therefore, parenting each child properly is important.
In the course of parenting, the father and mother seem to struggle everyday, in order to stay tuned to the ever changing demands of their children, the rising and falling tantrums and several mood swings. If a common question is asked to a parent whether any of their children has any tantrum or not, I will never get a reply from anyone who can say with conviction that the couple is lucky not to face any tantrum, any hanky panky of the kids.
Different kids have different sorts of tantrums and likes and dislikes. While some kids are too choosy about what they eat, others will have a perennial loss of appetite, which even the parents cannot sort out no matter how delicious dish they offer to such kids. Some children can be extremely nagging and stubborn about whatever they do.
Some can be rigid at making their parents obey whatever they want. It is very difficult for the parents to understand their children perfectly and work out a solution that would enable them to tackle their children in a better way. In order to have a clearer understanding of your kid, it is vital to know what the likes of the kid are and what are the dislikes of the kid. Capitalize on those aspects and you will be happy to see how easily you can tame and discipline the naughtiest of the kid too.
Tip: 1 –Do Not Force Your Kid Against Natural Inclination
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Many parents imagine that they would to see their daughters dancing to the soft ballet tune one day or their boys to becoming renowned cricketer some day. But, what they seem to forget is that their kids have their own preferences, likes and dislikes too.
You cannot force them to do what they do not like to do. So, when you think that your boy might be a great cricketer as he grows up, he can be immensely interested to paint, rather than remaining busy with bat and ball.
Similarly, your would-be dancer daughter can be keener to learn karate and hate dancing. Thus, if you pressurize your kid to do whatever he or she might not like to do and force him or her indirectly, to stay away from what the kid loves instinctively, it will not do any good at the end. The kid will also not be able to perform well in something he or she lacks interest.
Tip: 2 – Recognize Your Kid’s Interest And Encourage That
The most vital thing to know in parenting is that you can, in no way, make your kid do exactly what you want. Your kid is not a puppet. So what is important to realize is that which is the subject or the area of activity where he or she feels most comfortable. There is an easy way to identify your kid’s talent.
At a very tender age get your kid admitted into a lot of activities. Send your child to dancing classes, swimming, painting and art classes, physical activities, various sports, computers etc. You will be able to know the fields that your child gets most interest in. You will see his or her performance spurring up in that field. As contrary to that, the areas that do not give him or her any interest will exhibit least of performances.
Tip: 3- Talk Openly with Your Child
It happens most of the times that children, out of fear, continue to pursue a subject or follow certain activities in which he or she lacks interest. In such situations their results also do not come as is expected from them by their parents. Therefore, they are scolded and abused for repeated failures. The parents tend to act as rulers than friends.
They do not try to understand the reason behind such repeated failures. What they only know is to blame their kids for negligence and ignorance. But, this is not the right method of parenting. Good parenting says that you need to be friend with your kids so that they can open up to you and tell you what interests them and what not. It is your responsibility to ask your kid in a friendly way, the reason behind such repeated failures or below average expectation levels on any particular subject.
Tip: 4- Communicate With The Close Associates Of Your Kid
Another great way to know what your kid likes and what he or she hates to do is to talk to the close associates of your child. Have a friendly chat with the peer friend circle of your kid. They will be able to inform you which is the event they consider your child an asset to them, for instance, in such communications you can come to know that your kid is an asset to the school team in a match of volley, although you send him or her to regular athletics classes.
Likewise, the teachers at your kid’s school can through light on the subjects that your kid excels in and where is his or her performance noteworthy as compared to some other subject where he or she scores really unsatisfactorily. Build up your mind on such valuable feedback and channelize your kid to follow his or her aspirations and be successful.