So many people put a great deal of emphasis on external beauty. When they’re out at a bar or club they may or may not strike up a conversation with someone based solely on the person’s looks.

And then, if one person does not find another physically appealing, they may decide not to engage in the conversation. On dating websites members are encouraged to post a photo of themselves but all too often people pick and choose who they will contact on the dating website based solely on their photo and not give the person a chance by reading their profile.

While love and beauty can be related, a person’s appearance should not be the primary reason to start a relationship. Beauty comes in many forms. There is the obvious external beauty which is what everyone sees first and sadly, tends to judge the other person on.

There is also internal beauty. This form of beauty encompasses a person’s actions, their feelings and their thoughts. No every man or woman is a beauty queen or super model when it comes to physical appearances.

That is why people need to get to know each other and seek out the other person’s internal beauty.

Both men and women are guilty of spending hours at the gym, at the salon and in front of the mirror trying to make themselves as physically appealing as possible to the opposite sex.

What they forget to work on is their internal beauty. External beauty will one day fade, but internal beauty will last forever.

One the day that I met my future husband I was dressed down and was not having a good hair day. At first, based on my external appearance, he did not want to talk to me.

But he took a chance and we started a conversation. After speaking in person and on the phone for a few weeks we decided to start dating each other. He told me that he realized that even though I was having a bad hair day when we first met, I was a beautiful person on the inside and that made me beautiful inside and out every day since the day we met.