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Spice up sexual life

May 15, 2008

Since the dawn of time, people have looked toward elixirs and potions to improve their sex lives. Why else, after all, would one consume ground tiger penis, horny goat weed and Spanish Fly? Perhaps because nearly one in five men in the U.S. suffer from erectile dysfunction, according to a recent study in the American Journal of Medicine. Some researchers have estimated that as many as 40% of U.S. women have low libido or inability to reach orgasm. Most quick fixes simply don’t work, and some, like Spanish Fly, a supposed aphrodisiac derived from beetles that can cause kidney damage, are harmful.

It’s easy for a couple’s sex life to get into a bit of a rut, particularly when you’ve been together for a while. People tend to experiment a lot at the beginning of relationships and then fall into a comfortable routine. In addition, working long hours and stress mean that you don’t have the time or inclination for sex as often and so, before you know it, your sex life has gone off the boil. But there’s no reason why you can’t make changes now and start spicing up your sex life.

In order to spice up sexual life, it is important to remember that romance and sex are intimately connected, so it figures that if you can give your relationship a bit of a romance boost, your sex life will also get a boost. It’s about making each other feel special again. Without knowing your husband and his tastes, it’s very difficult to suggest something that he’d like. But given that you both work so much and that you feel that you’re stuck in a rut, why not take him on a romantic weekend away somewhere, either in England or abroad? Sometimes, a change of scene and routine can be all you need to spice things up again. Couples tend to have much more sex on holiday than they do at home. If you don’t have the time or money for that, what about a meal out at an intimate restaurant or a day trip to the beach or a beautiful location?

Ways to spice up sexual life

Act on your moods

In order to spice up sexual life, it is important to remember that “My problem was that even if I was in the mood when my husband was at work, by the time he got home I’d be too exhausted. It started to get so frustrating! Then, I figured out a plan. Every time I get in the mood during the middle of the day, I put a blindfold or something suggestive under his pillow. Even though I may be too tired to initiate sex later, he finds my little clue and definitely gets the message.”

Get high-tech

“I’ve started emailing my husband sexy fantasy scenarios on his personal email account. This really helps me to get brave. Because sometimes In order to spice up sexual life, it is important to remember that, I just feel silly showing him my sexual side when we’re face-to- face. Plus, getting his mind going like that has certainly has paid off.”

Rent an “adult” video

“There are so many helpful sex videos available that are not intimidating at all. The one I like is narrated by a sex therapist; it’s instructional in nature. You learn how to effectively stimulate someone, but on a really nonthreatening level.”

Take real life and shove it

In order to spice up sexual life, it is important to remember, “My husband and I were always too busy for love. Finally, one night we were getting serious about fooling around and what happened? The phone rang! Even though he picked it up, I decided to take matters into my own hands, and kept right on kissing him, all over. I loved that power, and he went wild too — when he finally got off the phone.”

Be at each other’s mercy

“Once I whispered in my significant other’s ear to take hold of my hand. Then I told him I was going to close my eyes and he had to place my hand anywhere on his body. Then I massaged whatever area it was. He was kind of in control, but ultimately I controlled the pleasure.”

Surprise him — and yourself!

“I flashed my husband when he got home from work last night. Enough said, right?”

Heat up the outdoors

“We like to pack a picnic and head to our favorite secluded spot. Sometimes we even get to go skinny dipping there. In order to spice up sexual life, it is important to remember that When you try it don’t forget a blanket or sleeping bag, pillows and bug spray because you’re sure in for a long night! Of course, city dwellers can picnic too. Just create a hideaway spot on your bedroom floor!”

Be aggressive

“Telling my husband what to do in bed is very erotic. Although I wouldn’t want a puppy dog for a husband all the time, it is so much fun to say what I want, when and how. Then there is seeing his response! He might get even more turned on than me.” In order to spice up sexual life, it is important to remember this.

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