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When sexual communication is interfered
But for the same purpose of sexual search, man, with his voice, use his language and his capacity of speech. We will see that the main part of the psycho sociological problems posed to human by sexuality lies in the fact that the human being uses the two distinct registers: linguistic and extra-linguistic (where animals use only one).
In the immediate future, this last mode, extra-linguistic – to which everyone is subject – will retain us.
One knows that to see and to be seen is very important in respect to sexual search and sexual behavior. People, in all places, try to verify the availability, the sexual receptivity of men and women and the desire that they inspire. Continuing, in the first steps of the body contact we enter more directly on the ground of the physical pleasure.
Early stages of relationships. Some scholars are interested in how sexual scripts (on the cultural level) guide interactions in newly forming or potentially sexual relationships (for a review see Metts and Spitzberg 1996). For example, studies of flirting and the negotiation of initial sexual involvement can be found under the general rubric of sexual communication. This area of research suggests that, in most cases, it is important in sexual communication that these episodes are mutually enacted and proceed without incident. Flirting enables people to display their interest in another person and to determine whether their attraction is reciprocated. Sexual negotiation enables people to determine whether and to what degree they will participate in sexual activity.
In the matter of sexual communication, Each partners justifies himself and becomes animated in attitudes, becoming signals, which, especially by the sight, the glance, physical gestures and phonic gestures, are an indication of desire and, an essential fact, are already pleasure. It is obvious that the use of language does not erase the fact that, with man, sexuality, by it essence exists initially in an extra-linguistic register. It is carried out and concluded in an intense, conscious and active communication, but the bases of which are completely external to language. Very concretely, the language is not necessary to the desire and pleasure does not need to have name to exist.
Neither sexual operation, nor acts of generation, could distinguish the non-modest animal from the modest man. it is important in sexual communication that the dominating factor which indicates the human condition is no other than the superposition, in our species of this second register of communication, the word, of which all allows to think that it is antagonistic to bodily act, until Ã©poque. The man uses his linguistic capacity in order to make love. Thus, excepting rape, it meets, to couple, the personality of the other. In other words: sexual intercourse requires a double encounter: with the body and the mind of the mate.