With marriage comes change and relocation is an inherent part of that change. Many people, especially women need to relocate to their spouse’s house after marriage. This can sometimes be as simple as just moving into another house in the same city or as complex as moving to another state or country altogether.
In addition to the sorrow of leaving all the people and places we loved behind, the thought of settling down in a foreign location with no idea of the place and its people whatsoever can send jitters down the spine of any woman.
If you face the definite task of relocating to another location after marriage, be it in the same locality, a different region in the same state, a different state or a different country, make sure to follow these tips to reduce unnecessary hassles.
Do some research: The decision to relocate after marriage would definitely have been made as soon as your marriage was finalised. So you would probably have some time on your hands to think about the same.
Utilise this time and opportunity to learn about the place you intend to relocate to. There are several websites (like google.com) that provide first hand information about each and every location on this earth and you can probably do little research to find out about the place you are moving to, its people, the language spoken and other interesting information like places to visit, good restaurants to eat out at and the bestÂ malls in the area.
Things to learn: If you are relocating to a destination where you can face difficulties with the language, you can probably learn a few words in advance. Try to learn important phrases which can help you out in case you get lost in the new place or need to communicate with the locals.
Make Friends: Making friends as soon as you relocate to a new place can be hard. This is where you can ask your husband to help you out. Your husband would most definitely have colleagues in his office who either have girlfriends or are married. You can ask your husband to invite his friends and their families home for a small get together and get to know them well.
In some cases, you can find that several of your husband’s colleagues would have relocated after marriage just as you have. In this case, you can be sure that you will find their wives in the same situation as yours. This in turn would enable you to make some quick friends.
Career Choices: Harder than moving away from family and friends is the part of sacrificing yourÂ career. Most women feel pressurized to leave their jobs in their home towns when they need to relocate. This is the case if the person in question enjoys a wonderful position in the company she is working at.
Before you decide to quit your job altogether, see if your office has branches in the location you are about to relocate to. If so, you can ask for a transfer of location. In other cases, you can look for career options in the new destination before you relocate there.
As and when you settle down in the new location, try to meet some professionals who work in the same field as you. Interact with office goers to find out about job openings and alternate career options.
There’s no way to walk around the issue. If you want to be accepted, you need to go out there and socialise with others.
Don’t forget old friends: And finally, as and when you relocate to a new destination, don’t forget your old friends back home. Keep in touch with them through phone calls, emails and messages. If you stay in adjacent towns or cities, pay themÂ surprise visits or call them over for occasions, festivals or parties.