Communicating with children has been a long discussed topic. It is like that because of the big age contrast and the changing generations. What is more, it is not an easy job for the parent to communicate with his child. Some moms and dads find it less difficult than others. They can just be friends with their children and it looks like an easy task.
How to talk and how to listen to your child properly
A good way to know your child better is to talk to him. Talking and listening are equally important for your relationship. If you think that something is wrong, listen to what your child does not say. If you talk with your child often, you will be able to decide when he is ready to do things alone and when he is not.
Spending time together will make your relationship stronger. You should put the work aside for a small period of time every week. Today people work so much that they forget about their children. The more important thing is to be available every time when your child needs you to advise him or help him with something. A great way to improve your relationship is to take a hobby that you both like or to travel together.
Ask about casual things like school and friends
The casual conversation plays an important role at home. You should be interested in your child’s life and ask him about his day. You can tell him about your day. The main rule is not to ask questions which can be answered only with the positive “yes” and negative “no”. You have to ask more specific questions and when you hear the answers, you can decide if your child is happy with his life.
Encouragement and criticism
The less you criticize your child, the more confident he will be. Every child needs to know that his parents believe in him and encourage him to persuade his goals. If you often criticize your kid, he will lose confidence and become depressed. The worst thing is that he will stop dreaming about his future. You should see carefully how he acts and tell him how he should not act. But do not be rude. You have to tell him the things carefully and gently.
Talk about bad things too
Search information about everything that your child is interested in and all things that can have bad influence over him. You should talk with him about alcohol, cigarettes and drugs, gangster bands and so on. Let him tell you his viewpoint and after that decide if there is a problem.
If there is a problem – do not hide it
As they are youngsters, children should not be stressed. However, honesty is very important for the relationship between a parent and a child. You should talk to your child about the family problems which will reflect on him. Do not tell him everything. Let him know only what he can understand and assure him that everything will be fine.
The main rule – be honest!
Very important is to be yourself when you are spending time with your child. If you wear a mask, you cannot expect honesty from him. Showing him your love and appreciation is a must. Definitely prove that you will always be there for him, whatever it costs.