When a girl is to get married, one of the many questions and fears that come to her mind is what if her husband is a mama’s boy. What if keeping his parents happy is his number one priority. This is a common situation, and the good news is there is a chance of getting out of this situation.
In order to help your husband grow and stop being a mama’s boy, the first thing you need to do is keep a subtle distance between you and your in-laws. When there is a distance, there will be less chance to criticize you.
At the same time, it is better if you have a job. That will keep you busy and give you the financial support you need. This will also make your husband realize that it is unfair for him to expect that you would contact your in-laws more often, almost every day.
Make it clear to them that you have other things to do and you are free on particular days. But there it should be mentioned that this rule is not to be applied on your in-laws, but on your parents as well.
You cannot be biased and be a mama’s girl. If you wish to earn the respect of your husband then you will have to apply the rule on both sides that is being even.
Do not ever stop your husband from sending money to your in-laws or helping them financially. That would be rude and he might think you are being selfish.
You do not want that to happen. But at the same time do not let him give away any amount. Discuss with him and make a budget of how much you wish to give your in-laws.
Make sure it is a reasonable amount and at the same time try to make your husband understand that, that is as much as you can give. You also have a family to run and have to save some for yourselves as well.
Parents will always be children’s priority, but the spouse is important as well. You cannot force your spouse to choose you over his parents, but what you can do is make sure your priorities are secured.