Losing a baby-how to cope
September 15, 2008
Unfortunately, sometimes destiny takes a bad turn and one has to go through a bitter phase. When a woman loses a baby it is very hard for her to accept the fact and her world is completely shattered. This is something for which nobody is prepared and in fact nobody even wants to think about it.
Facing the loss as a couple
As a couple sometimes it may become very hard to support each other at this time as this is probably the first tragedy they would be facing together. As they both are sharing the same grief, sometimes the relationship between the couple becomes stronger and it is necessary that they are patient with each other and have immense understanding. As both are suffering, there may be cases that there are negative emotions, but you need to keep that in check as it can adversely affect your marriage. People have their different ways of grieving and one should accept each other’s differences and do not have any kind of communication gap.
Telling other children
Sometimes when you have other children, you may face the problem of telling the other children about the loss and if it is right to tell them. Yes, the children should be told, as most of the parents who have experienced this situation believe that it is more difficult to be silent about the fact in front of other children. If you will hide the death from them, they will develop an excessive fear about it and won’t be able to grieve properly. At such a moment, it is important for all family members to be together to grieve. Even if a child is below 4-5 years of age, he/she can understand pain.
Another baby
It is a very difficult decision to plan for another baby. For many women, it is a source of happiness to have another baby again. This is a decision you need to make for yourself and you should go for it only when you are sure that you are ready. This decision becomes tougher when you are still grieving for the lost child and is not able to cope with the grief. One needs to be strong in such circumstances. Though it’s very easy to say, the person who is actually suffering from it only knows the real pain.
























