Many times, we come across people, books, and articles saying that ego is destructive for any kind of relationship. Irrespective of our having the knowledge about it, it just creeps into life and relations silently. However, when it makes an entry into a relationship with your life partner then the consequences are scary.
When we begin our married life, we never imagine that ego could be such disastrous. But, it has the capacity to cause such harm.Â In many cases it happens that with more and more time both partners pass with each other, they realize that life is not as smoothly as they had dreamed or imagined. As differences pop up, the story of ego also begins from there.Â If the differences are not sorted out in time then they prove to be disastrous. Here, you don’t have to presume that all couples end up with similar consequences. Rather, most of the couples we come across enjoy normal and healthy relations in their lives. Now, you wonder what the secret behind it is. One of their major secrets of having a healthy relationship is that they know how to deal with ego. Many surveys and opinion polls’ results suggest that ego has been a cause behind majority of break ups and marriages. This whole article is all about how to avoid, handle and control ego in married life.
Regular clear communication between husband and wife is must. When there is communication, there is no place for ego. However, for this regular communication, understanding between both the sides is necessary. One has to take the initiative to sit and talk, when the other partner’s behavior seems to be guided by his/ her ego. If both of you are at war due to ego clash then give some time to yourselves. As soon as you feel normal or feel guilty of your behavior, have a talk on it and solve the matter then and there. Don’t just stretch it.
Sometimes, we hurt the other person’s ego without even realizing about it. In such cases, once you realize that she/he is hurt, immediately say sorry. If you ignore it then don’t think that your small innocent act would die its natural death. Rather, it will return to your life being a bigger problem later and that eventually could take a toll on your married life.
So, the mantra for a successful married life is to sit, talk and discuss and give a heavy blow to ego.Â Ego clash is a part and parcel of relationship, but it’s your duty to know how to get out of it.