How To Handle Behavior Problems In Children

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dealing with children behavior problems Children are our future and we make best endeavours as parents to make better human beings out of our children. Parenting is not an easy task and it requires a lot of persistence, patience, passion and hard work to nurture a child.

Although in most cases children behave well but there can be some problems that can make children to behave in erratic ways. All parents experience some behaviour problems in their child at one or the other point in life.



It can lead to agony and depression in parents as well. Parents themselves get so confused and agitated that it becomes difficult for them to handle their own children. We shall discuss about common behaviour problems in children and ways and means of handling such problems.

How To Handle Behavior Problems In Children

Sibling Rivalry

Jealousy is a very common behavior and we all feel jealous from people who compete with us in any manner. Therefore, it is common for siblings to feel jealous as this feeling aids tolerance, independence and generosity in children and also helps them to grow better. The child does not complain till the time the feeling becomes evident and bitter in his / her heart.



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It is seen that when parents unknowingly compare siblings or praise one sibling more than the other, then this can mount to rivalry amongst siblings. The child would feel unhappy and resentful towards his / her sibling. It is very difficult to manage such emotions in children. But it is very important that parents should not instigate such feelings. If ever such feelings become prominent, the parents need to practise a lot of patience and compassion towards their children.

Parents should stay away from sibling fights and also from taking sides. Till the time fight is in controllable state do not intrude and if you think you need to barge in, refrain from scolding one child only. Tell them their mistakes and give a fair verdict. Do not favour one child over another to crop the feeling of sibling rivalry amongst your children.



Stranger Anxiety

You can notice this behaviour problem in babies also. It is seen that some babies get very cranky and uncomfortable when they are with strangers. This happens when the baby is confined to his / her home most of the time with only few people around him / her. This trait can be seen in toddlers as well as teenagers also. It is very important for the parents to help their child come out of the shell and interact with people.

This feeling generally develops out of some complex within the child. As parents you need to find out why child is hiding away from interacting with new people. Although shying away is normal for children as they are not known to new people but even after constant efforts from parents if this trait is evident then you need to help your child to overcome this anxiety. Make your child join some hobby classes or interact with various people. This way the child would become confident and overcome this feeling.

Using Naughty words

It is seen that some children really enjoy using naughty and bad words. This happens when the parents show great concern that their child should not use such words. The child gets some kind of pleasure by disobeying parents and continues to do so.


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The best thing that parents can do is to ignore such things. When the child would figure out that it is not bothering his / her parents anymore, probably he / she would stop using such language himself / herself. If nobody pays attention and his / her words fall flat then the child would not be interested in using such words. Therefore, the best way is to ignore.

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Whining

This problem can actually trouble parents to a great extent and sometimes the parents also get quite hyper over a whining child. If the child is whining occasionally, or due to some health reasons, then we can understand the cause. But if the child whines without any reason then it can be quite irritating for the parents. It is also seen that many children would whine at one parent and not both the parents.

It is very important to understand that if the child is whining without any reason then maybe it is your attitude that is encouraging your child to whine. The best way to deal with this situation is ignore the child and do not pay heed to his whining. Stop paying too much attention to the whining child and slowly you would notice a remarkable change.

There is no point scolding or threatening a child for whining. The child is whining probably because he / she has nothing else to do. Let your child indulge in various fun activities to overcome this behavioural problem.

Aggression

It is very normal for the child to feel angry and upset sometimes. Anger is a basic human nature and we all feel angry when things do not happen or turn out the way we want them to. With age we master to control our anger but for a child it is not possible to control his anger. It is very important for the parents to teach their child the correct way to vent out anger.

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Children also are able to handle their aggression with growing years. But they should not be encouraged to vent out their anger by throwing objects, hitting anybody or using foul language. You can ask your child the reason behind his / her feeling, and help him / her understand the situation in a dignified manner. It would take lot of hard work to make the child understand such concepts but you should not give up.

A child is like soft clay and can be molded in to any shape. If we want our children to become good and responsible human beings then we have to teach them good values and morals. It is very normal for the child to make a fault and it becomes our duty to get the child to the correct path. We as parents are the true guiding force in our child’s life and we only have to conquer all their behaviour problems.



Shaini N