If you’re going out to a club or a bar, take a female friend or your sister with you. Women are often more amenable to talking to men who are with other women. It gives them the feeling that you actually like women, and that’s attractive. If your female friend is outgoing, see if she’ll make small talk with somebody you’d like to meet. She can say something along the lines of, “I love your necklace!” and that should do it. After a little back-and-forth, your friend can say, “Oh, how rude of me. This is my friend Andy,” and you’re in business.This particular tip requires knowing a bit about your lady and what she likes and doesn’t like. But you don’t have to know her like the back of your hand in order to make a truly romantic evening for the two of you to share. The most important thing is to consider what you know she finds romantic and then do your best to create that for her. The very fact that you thought of her and wanted to romance her out of the blue will really impress her and make her feel truly special.
Enough idle chits chat. Let’s get down to business. First, you must become part of her life. Not an acquaintance, or some dude she works with. You must enter stealth mode. Find something you have in common, and establish a connection with her, with some underlying flirtation involved. This flirting must be subtle, not direct. Think of this as planting the seed.
The first thing you need to get under control is comfort when approaching women. You need to get to the point where you can walk up to a woman and start talking to her without turning into an emotional basket case. If you’re freaked out on the inside, it’s going to be pretty hard for you to act “normal” on the outside. And it’s going to be even harder to try new things and use techniques that you’re learning if you’re uptight. The best thing you can do is go out and start conversations with about 50 women over the next week or two. If you’re too nervous to converse, just give a compliment and walk away. Say “Hi, I just wanted to tell you that I think you’re beautiful. Have a great day,” and walk away.