How to Forget an Ex-Love

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forgotexloveAlmost all of us have been through a breakup at some point in our lives. It can be even more difficult if you felt like you were in love or the relationship had lasted for years.

Coming home to an empty house or missing the affectionate words you used to hear all the time can be the hardest things of all. But there are ways to work through the pain.  The suffering doesn’t last forever.

The most common advice most individuals receive is to look for a new partner, or engage in a quick fling with a stranger, to get your ex out of your system. This rarely works out. It’s like putting a small bandage on a wound that requires stitches.

Coming to terms with the fact that your relationship is over is the first step. It can be difficult, but reminding yourself that it’s over and done with can eventually provide you with a sense of relief. Go out with your friends and confide in them; discuss how you are dealing with being single again.

Don’t hold the emotions inside yourself, as they’ll just fester inside you. The past may be on your mind quite often during this turbulent time, but remember that you can’t change it. What happened, It’s time to move forward.

Now that you’ve broken up, it may be time to pursue activities that you’ve always wanted to try but were previously unable to do. Go take a dance class or learn to mountain climb.

Filling that void you feel with a new and lasting experience can help immensely. In addition to the fulfillment you’ll feel, a new sport or hobby can lead to new friends. Don’t go looking for the next hookup, just have fun.

Shopping can be excellent therapy for a woman who has suffered a recent breakup. But be sensible about your “retail therapy” given our tough economic times.

Set a budget for your shopping spree and stick to it. Call on a friend to go with you and help you stick to your spending limit. Try finding a sale to maximize your return.

Pick up a new sport! You’ll get an excellent workout and have fun while doing it. It’s a great way to meet new people, too. The important thing is to keep from closing yourself off to others after you’ve broken up. Visit a foreign country. Find a sunny beach and relax. Get out there and enjoy life, or you may discover you’ve become trapped in the past.

It may feel like the hardest thing in the world to pick up the pieces after a relationship ends, but it’s important to move forward with your life. Suffering isn’t the point of your existence; enjoying life is!