There are lots of misconceptions that are present in people’s mind about sex, and more so if it happens to be older women enjoying it. Most people think that as women get older and hit the deadly 40’s, they have non- existent sex lives. But that is far from the truth.
In fact, more and more women over 40 are having the best sex of their lives. Married women or those who are in serious relationships say that they are enjoying sex like never before; a lot more than what they did when they were 20 something’s!
There are many reasons for this, and the most important among them is that women who have crossed the 40 year landmark have been having sex for a long time and know what pleases them and their partners. And it boils down to great sex.
Other Reasons Why Women Over 40 are Having Better Sex Than Ever
She is secure: Most women over 40 have more or less achieved whatever they wanted in their lives. They have a home, a job they love, a loving partner and kids. Most of all, they are financially secure. The security gives them self- esteem and confidence and that gives their sex lives a huge boost.
She is Out of the Reproductive Cycle
Most women have their menopause just before or after hitting their 40’s. That means they are free from the pressures of giving birth to children. This also means that they can have sex whenever they want to without having to worry about birth control pills or condoms. This losing of inhibitions prompts them to enjoy sex more.
She is Content
Women who have crossed their 40th year usually are content with their lives and not worried about bringing up kids or getting that promotion.
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They have accomplished a lot in life and hence have the time and patience to make the sexual act enjoyable.
Her Kids Have Grown up
This is a huge boost for women over 40. Women at this age don’t have to get up at night to change diapers or nurse anymore. What’s more, with the kids grown up, household chores can also be assigned to them. This means that women have more time on their hands to spend time with their partners.
She Has Practiced a Lot
As the famed adage goes – ‘Practice makes perfect’. Women over 40 have been practicing having sex for more or less half of their lives. It can be expected that they know what pleases them and their partners. The end result is a mutually satisfying sexual life. What’s more, women at this age are more likely to experience orgasm during intercourse.
She Has Found the One
Most women over 40 agree that they have found the ‘One’. When you realize that you have finally settled down with the man of your dreams, chances are that you are going to enjoy having sex with him all the more.
Great Sex Tips For Women Over 40
Innovate: Though a lot of people believe that older women are frigid, nothing could be farther away from the truth. The fact is that women over 40 do not have diminished sex drives (and even if they do, there are ways to bring it back). All they can be accused of is being stuck in a rut. At this age, a woman’s health and body is not what it was when she was 20.
So it is important to be innovative. For instance, having sex in the morning before leaving the bed is a great idea as that would mean that both the partners have more energy. Learning new sex positions by searching the web is also a wonderful idea. The trick is to understand that your body is not the same anymore and treat it in a better way.
Make Your Relationship with Your Partner as Romantic and Sexy as Possible
Just because you have been married for 20 years does not mean that you can’t have great sex. The trick is to not let the love and romance wither away like an un-watered plant.
Instead, focus on your relationship and try to make it as romantic as you can. If your partner likes watching you in sexy lingerie, make sure you take him shopping with you the next time you hit the stores. Talk to him, listen to him and be as loving and kind as you can. No matter how many kids you have running about the house all day, ensure that you spend some time alone with him every day.
Try Out New Things
This is actually something that should be followed by all women, not only those who are over 40. Trying out new things sexually is important. If you are over 40, it is very possible that you have been in a committed relationship for years and it is easy to get bored.
Spice up things in the bedroom. Talk to your partner about your fantasies and ask him about his. If your partner fantasizes about having sex on the dining room table, do it one day when the kids are at school. If you want to try out a new sex position but are too shy to tell your partner about it, stop being prissy. Remember, what you do in your bedroom does not have to follow any rules and you can do anything you want as long as it is mutually pleasing and does not hurt anyone.
Keep your body and mind fit by exercising everyday. Better still, ask your partner to join you and make him exercise as well. A fitter body leads to better sex.
Arrange a Date
If you are over 40 and single, don’t worry because a lot of men would love to be in a relationship with you. Go on regular dates, meet new people and have fun. Great sex will follow.
More women around the world understand the pleasures of having sex after they have reached their 40’s. There is no reason you can’t too.