Abusive Relationships – When is Enough, Enough?”
June 25, 2008
So when enough is enough? Every day, millions of people are in abusive relationships and the victim is not always the woman as generally believed. Men are also victims in abusive relationships but that fact hardly ever get noticed by the general public mainly the concept is that since a man is stronger and aggressive than a woman, he is the aggressor and not capable of allowing a woman to verbally or physically abuse him.
That statement is not true and yes there are women that takes the dominate role in some relationships. So, when, how and why does abuses of peoples in relationships begin? It usually begins when one or both people in a relationship go through a mental breakdown or continuous period of stress and anxiety, which causes a significant change in their mood and behavior.
For example, the guy or girl in the relationship loses their job or someone close to them dies and go through a period of continuous stress and anxiety and there is no support group around them to help them deal with the pains they are going through so they don’t really know how to deal with their feelings so they would take it out on those closest to them, like their spouse or their girlfriend or boyfriend.
Of course not all relationships are that way and people deal with stress differently than others but it happens and in some cases it usually progresses until someone gets seriously hurt or even dies as a result.
Also, the person or persons, doing the abusing in the relationship could have an inferior complex, which causes them to think and feel that the only way they can keep their spouse or lover from leaving them is to control them. This also can be caused by physical and personal differences between the couples, such as one being taller than the other or one has better connections and job placement or one is not talented as the other. Those factors also play in abusive situations.
Usually the abuse starts with small verbal attacks to more serious verbal attacks and finally to physical abuse. Why does the abuse continue and when does it stop? One of the reasons why the abuse continues could be that the abused allows the abuse to continue because they either love the abuser or is afraid of him or her.
Another reason could be the abused feels they are worthless and the abuser gives them the attention that they need, where the abused feels he or she can’t find anywhere else. Most of the people who are being abused as adults were abused as young children and they feel that being abused is normal.
When does it stop? It can stop when the abused decide to take actions that they feel will ensure the abuser will stop, such as leaving the abuser, reporting the abuser to the police or in drastic cases, killing the abuser. Abusive relationships can stop when one decided to stop it and until that time and place, the abuse will continue.
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